Finding a Partner

Type Find a Partner into google and you will be presented with hundreds of online dating websites, regardless of your age or status it can be a daunting prospect. The search for the ideal partner or soul-mate has become the fodder of romantic movies, so it must be easy? Eh, no, not really.

I over-heard a divorced female friend comment recently.

“I’m so fed up of facing everything on my own, all my friends are married or in long term steady relationships. I feel I am filling in time before I die; I hate myself for it, maybe I am not supposed to have a partner? There has to be more to my life than this.”

What do you think is the most important relationship in your life? Answer, the relationship you have with you. The partner in you is the most neglected partner in all of humanity.  We take ourselves for granted, we are judge and jury, and we convict and sentence ourselves to a life of single imprisonment. Nothing will change for you until you take responsibility for you by discovering you, getting to know the person within, after all it has been often said, we cannot love another until we love ourselves.

So what evidence is there which supports this belief, in self-love being the answer? When we refuse to look within we are unconsciously attracted to the very things we are repulsed by, we end up in abusive, alcoholic controlling relationships, with a partner who thinks more of their own addiction than they do of us, well unless, they require sex, and when this is done we are left empty and alone. Have you ever heard yourself say: “Do I have ‘use me’ stamped on my forehead?” Well yes you have, once you persist in ignoring the partner within you.

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