 Dependency & Co-Dependency
M.Scott Peck in his book The Road Less Travelled conveys his view of dependency:
“I define dependency as the inability to experience wholeness or to function adequately without the certainty that one is being actively cared for by another.”
Dependency is now more seen in relation to a chemical or substance, drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, being dependent  (psychologically and/or physically) A new word developed from the treatment of the dependency on chemical substances namely Co-Dependency.
Co-Dependency is defined very articulately by the psychotherapist Fr Jim Cogley as “where one person becomes addicted to the other person and lives their life through them. When this is allowed, the essential Self of the other becomes eroded. Indeed not dissimilar to the tree being sacrificed in favour of the ivy. A sense of freedom is seriously lacking where there is co-dependency and it gives rise to deep levels of insecurity and jealously.
- Could the co-dependent be someone without a centre and so they make someone else their centre and believe they can’t exist without them?
- Could a couple who can neither live together nor apart be trapped in mutual co-dependency?
- Could the best way to deal with a clinging vine be to withdraw support in order for the order to begin drawing on their own resources”
His summary line portrays a strong image of Co-Dependency.
“When someone else is the light of my life then I am in the darkness”.
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